Courage To Be Yourself

Amongst so many followers, it is not easy to find the courage to be yourself.

We are so trained to follow the rules created by others that we lose the sight of who we really are. Some people are so lost that they do not know that they are lost!

From the childhood we are trained to seek the approval of others. Parents, teachers, lecturers, employers... So many people to please. No wonder it is so easy to forget your true self.

But there is such a great joy to find the courage to be yourself. When you really understand your preferences and live the life you want to live, you break free of the chains so many people carry at their own will.

By finding courage to be yourself you become a leader, and others start following you, whether you want it or not. It is because so many people are lost and cannot find their true selves, so when they see someone who is confident and happy with himself, they gladly follow such person.

Leaders (those who found their true selves) have such a strong pulling power, they are like magnets attracting people to them. Their confidence and freedom shines through, and they really stand out from the crowd.

Those are people who do not follow the latest trends, because they do not care about them. They do not behave in a way that would please someone above them, because they do not consider anyone to be above them. They are not ashamed of who they are, and they confidently express their preferences.

They do not care what others think of them. They are not concerned if they have true friends or not, because such people are happy being in their own company.

Those that are insecure always search for someone to rely on. They feel scared if someone betrays them, they are afraid to stay alone. It is hard for such people, but this is their own choice. They can change this the same day they think of taking such step.

How to find the courage to be yourself

If you want to find your true self you should:

Stop following others
Stop seeking approval of others
Do only what you like to do
Develop your hobbies
Never care about what others think of you
Do not get discouraged if someone disapproves of something that you do – most leaders were disapproved of at some point, but they kept being themselves and they succeeded
Make you own decisions, even if you are not sure if they are the correct ones – you will improve along the way

Try to be yourself at all costs, even if your preferences are very different from the commonly accepted ones. That is the key to freedom and happiness. If you listen to what others say you will lose sight of who you are and will never find the courage to be yourself.

Travel alone if you want to try this or if it gives you a thrill when you think of it. That's what I do. Although I travel with friends and family members too, I much more prefer travelling alone. So the majority of trips I take is with myself:) This is the hobby that I have and nothing is going to change that.

Try to find your own hobby that is not so common. That could be horse-riding, cooking Indian food, learning some uncommon language or something like that. When you truly emerge yourself in what you like, you become a much more interesting person and you gain 'magnetic' power and start attracting people into your life who adore you.

You can also try to find your signature look. That will make you very confident in yourself because you will be unique. That could involve changing the way you dress or what accessories you wear, your hair style or similar aspects of who you are. You should find the look that expresses who you are.

That is what the world's most successful people do. They are who they are, they do not listen to others and they keep doing what they like to do even if some disapprove of their actions. Those people that disapprove are the most insecure ones. They see that someone is finding herself so they try to put this person down. Some fall for it, some keep being themselves. It is up to them to choose.

Your opinion is the ONLY thing that should matter to you. You should not care what others think about your opinion, because other people will only make you lose sight of your uniqueness.

I get so many emails from my visitors asking me “Should I ... “, “Do you think it is ok for me to...”, “What do you think of...” . These are all the questions from people who are still far away from their true selves. Otherwise they would never ask such questions.

In fact, when you find courage to be yourself, you stop asking questions. You know what you want and you never think whether you should verify something that you are deciding.

The insecure people are always seeking approval of those that they consider to be higher up. But that is a false assumption because we are all the same. It is just how you think of yourself. If you think that you are a loser, you are one. If you think that you are an amazing person, you are one. It is all up to you. What you think - you become. So which one would you prefer choosing?

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