The Secret Magic Power Of My Brother

My brother needs to learn many lessons in life (too many to count) but one thing he totally mastered is the area of relationships.

I’m amazed how quickly he finds common ground with people from all walks of life and people instantly like him. Women hopelessly fall in love with him and his friends don’t understand what makes people feel attracted to him.

Whilst I was in Lithuania I had enough time to see what my brother did to effortlessly attract people and I’ve discovered several clues to his success in relationships.

If you find it hard to meet new people and maintain meaningful relationships, pay attention to these qualities and they may make you the person whom everyone wants to befriend.

The first trait of his personality that is responsible for his ability to maintain meaningful relationships is non-judgement. My brother judges no one, not even the people others don’t like. People feel this attitude and they can be their true selves near my brother, not hiding behind their social masks.

Furthermore, my brother asks questions to find out about the likes and dislikes of people so that he wouldn’t accidentally insult them in some way. When he knows about their tastes and preferences, he talks about things people value and like. Although he never read the “How To Win Friends And Influence People” book, this is actually a suggested tip in the book to make people like you.

He also has a very humorous and uplifting personality. You cannot not laugh when you’re around him for more than ten minutes. He will find a way to make you laugh with his interesting stories and opinions. The way he talks, the way he acts will make you laugh sooner or later, no doubt about it. You’ve probably noticed that those people who have a good sense of humour never lack friends, and those who are always serious seem to struggle in this area.

I’ve never heard my brother complaining or being negative. When something negative happens to him, he gets angry for a very brief moment and then he goes on being his usual fun self. I’ve never heard him brag either. He is very modest but not shy; He is funny but not loud.

Another thing I’ve noticed about him is that he really listens to what you’re saying. Most people just wait for their turn to speak, but my brother carefully listens to what you say and then asks further questions in relation to what you’re talking about. This makes people think that he genuinely cares about their issues and opinions. This is, actually, another tip from the same book. It makes me wonder now if he really never read this book:)

Appearance-wise, he really looks after himself. He dresses in a way that would express his personality, he exercises and eats healthy food. What you eat is important because sooner or later your appearance will be a dead giveaway of your eating habits. My brother’s appearance allows him to “pass” the first test when people meet him. After that only the character determines if people will consider him to be their friend.

If, however, you don’t look after yourself, don’t expect other people to see through the appearance into your soul – most people don’t have such ability. So it’s much easier to make friends when your appearance doesn’t push people away.

So these are the traits I’ve noticed in my brother, that, I think, are responsible for making people like him. There could be more subtle traits that I wasn’t able to pick up on, but the next  time I go to Lithuania I will try to figure these out:)

All the traits I’ve just mentioned about my brother are natural to him. He doesn’t plan to make people laugh or to not judge, it’s just who he is. I’ve noticed that people are successful in those areas that they pay very little attention to, they just naturally expect them to be good and they are. So my brother doesn’t try to make friends or anything like that, friends just naturally come to him because he expects this to be the case.

My brother is obviously not the only person that could show how to excell in relationships. There are many people with this great ability that I could have chosen to “research”. If you know someone who finds it easy to form meaningful relationships, and you’re struggling in this area, you should pay attention to what they do that make them able to attract people into their lives.

The good thing about watching someone and emulating what they do is that it allows you to produce exactly the same outcomes. Also, if you do such things long enough, they will become a part of who you really are. This is called NLP Modelling Technique and it’s a very effective one.

So identify some area of your life that’s not going well, find peole who excell at it and do what they do. Sooner or later that area of your life will improve and you will start naturally expecting it to remain so – and it will.

If you can’t be bothered to find a role model and pay attention to what he or she does, here’s another powerful strategy. Simply think about what kind of person you want to attract in your life and become such person. This works wonders because in this universe you attract people who are on the same vibrational level.

Here’s another way to look at this. Answer this question:

Would you like to have a friend who is the exact copy of you?

Really think about this. Because that will contain a clue of what you can change in yourself to start attracting quality relationships.

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