You Are Worth Each Other
Whoever you are with, there is one thing for sure – you are worth each other. If you don’t like your current relationship because of your partner’s flaws, you are in such relationship because you have flaws too. You cannot attract a perfect partner if you are far from perfection yourself.
We attract exactly who we are. Also, if you lack some positive quality and your partner has it, it means that your partner has some negative quality to even out the difference. For example, if you are poor and find a rich partner, that partner may not love you or be short-tempered or something similar.
Also, sometimes we attract our opposites. For example, a quiet person may be with a party animal, a person who wants to achieve something may be with someone who is happy with what he/she has at the moment. Such relationships almost never work out because you are not vibrational matches. Sometimes people who change and become complete opposites still say in the same relationship because of their mutual fear of not finding a better partner.
People with opposite qualities doesn’t have any stable grounds for a relationship. Let me explain. If you are a very active person and you are in a relationship with a passive person, this de-stabilises the relationship because activity and pasivity neutralises each other. If, on the other hand, you are both active people, you have a stable ground and you can build up on it – it won’t crumble. With that in mind, there could be any other numerous issues why such relationship may still fail, but this is beyond the scope of this post.
In this regard, it’s better to choose a partner who is equal to you in as many ways as possible. This would be a perfect choice because you can both progress from this point, as you are starting at the same place. You can then work together on the issues you have and the positive qualities you lack.
If you see some negative quality in your partner, it means you have it too, otherwise you would not see it. By such qualities I mean mental, not physical qualities. So if you are annoyed by each other’s bad qualities, you will be annoyed forever, unless of course you decide to work on yourself to eliminate such trait.
There is also another type of relationship I didn’t mention. It’s when two people have different negative traits which serve as triggers to get each other annoyed. For example, a partner who nags and a partner who easily gets annoyed; the one wo is insecure and the one who is jealous; an over-emotional woman and an insensitive man. These partners are perfect for each other because they have one particular issue to work out. Both partners serve as indicators if they still have their issues or not.
For example, if an over-emotional woman would get in control of her emotions, she would notice that by not emotionally reacting to her insensitive partner. Although it may seem that negativity-based relationship is not going anywhere, if both partners work out their issues, they will either stay together or move on to more suitable partners. If, however, they don’t work on their negative traits, it’s very likely they will be stuck in the same miserable relationship.
So if you have a partner whose qualities you don’t like, don’t bug them anymore – work on yourself instead. If you do, you will eliminate such traits which will naturally get you out of the relationship and you will be able to attract a partner that is worth a new you.
Both people in a relationship rarely change, so it’s very likely that once you change, you will move on because your partner will stay at exactly the same place. You will know that you have changed when the traits in your partner that used to annoy you no longer do. That’s a sure sign that you are free of “karma” that used to hold you together. When this happens, you don’t have to do anything. Your changed vibration will attract something else in your life. That, of course, may take some time, but be patient – it will be worth it.
So whoever you are with at the moment, you rightly deserve each other. And if your relationship is far from perfect, improve yourself and see what a a big difference it will make in your life.
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My name is Simona Rich and I help people improve themselves through the articles and products on this website. Although I have found my life's purpose and now fully enjoy my life, my life used to be completely different. 
Thank you Simona, this has helped me very much. However I still have some concerns over my own relationship which I will work on. I guess my issue is that it was MY partner who introduced me to this way of life (spiritually speaking) and now in the past few months I have grasped this concept yet feel as though he has forgotten about it. It is frustrating and ‘annoying’ but I guess as you explained thats because I still have that within myself.
Thank you again Simona for this entry.
Thank you for your beautiful comment and all the best in your relationships.
It is really true that you always get what you deserve although some people would rather not think about it this way because they don’t want to believe that they get what they deserve. Instead of improving themselves they go on about changing others. Thank you for this great post.
Exactly. Thank you, Martin.