The Hardest Time To Change Is When You’re Comfortable

Being in absolutely appalling conditions can actually be a blessing in disguise because the worse conditions you find yourself in, the more motivated you will be to take massive action to get yourself out of such situation. Therefore those who feel fairly comfortable (but not happy) are the least likely to change as they don’t have a burning need to take massive action.

In this article I will focus on how to change your life if you are in fairly good circumstances at the moment.

Today I met a truly great person at one event who asked me this question, so I thought I will share my answer (and more) with those who would like to get the same advice.

I know the exact answer to this question because I was able to create quick progress whilst employed in a job I didn’t like but which provided good income. I did this by creating a compelling image of where I want to be in a few years time and I made this image as clear as possible. The clearer your goal is, the more motivated you will be to achieve it.

But it’s not enough to have a clear goal though. You also have to have a goal that you truly want to achieve. And by that I mean that it should be your heart’s wish and not your mind’s wish.

The way to tell whether your goal is your heart’s wish or your mind’s wish is this. If you think about your goal and you don’t get emotional, it means it’s your mind’s wish. You may still achieve such goal, with quite a lot of struggle, but you won’t feel fulfilled if you do. If will feel empty once you get it.

If your goal is truly something you want to achieve, you will not need to exert as much energy as the goal that’s only your mind’s wish. This is because you will work in alignment with your essence. If you want to achieve a goal that is not what you truly want, you will be divided against yourself and that will create additional obstacles for you to achieve it. You will keep sabotaging yourself and make unnecessary mistakes, thus wasting your time and energy.

So if you have a goal but you don’t feel emotional about it, stop fooling yourself. Think it over. Is it really something you are prepared to put long hours to achieve?

Once you are absolutely certain that your goal is something you truly (truly) want, here’s the next step. Check whether your mind agrees with the goal. Because if you deep inside doubt that you will achieve it, it’s unlikely that you will.

Doubt always hides limiting beliefs about whatever you want to achieve. So when you discover your doubt, question it. Question where it came from and whether it really represents reality. Understand that the way you perceive the reality might not be how the reality really is!:)

Also, look for clashing beliefs/thoughts to do with your goal. For example, if your goal is to become a billionaire but you also want to have plenty of free time, these are clashing beliefs. Or if you want to be very thin but you are not prepared to give up junk food, these are also clashing beliefs. Or if you want to empower millions but then think in a competitive manner, these are also clashing thoughts/beliefs.

Most people have clashing beliefs about the major areas of their lives and therefore they are stuck. It’s very easy to miss such beliefs because they became part of who you are so you might be thinking about them now without realising it because that thinking is almost subconscious.

However if you manage to quieten and clarify your mind (through meditation and shutting yourself out of as many external influences as possible), you will be able to discover quite a few of them. The rest you will discover alone if you are truly prepared to do a hard self-assessment which will take a few days (at least) or you can hire a coach (an experienced and good one) who will be able to uncover such clashing beliefs for you.

Now a few words about the external influences that create clashing beliefs in you. When you believe in something, but you, for example, watch the same TV show over and over again that keeps mentioning a totally opposite belief but in a way that you don’t realise it’s opposite, it will get embedded in your consciousness (and then overtaken by your subconscious mind) without you even knowing about it.

You are most likely to take in such clashing beliefs when you totally focus on that external influence and are not aware of what’s going on around you. That’s the time anything can be downloaded into your powerful mind.

So let’s say you live in Harpenden (a UK town) and you believe it’s really safe to live in this town. You now watch a TV program about safety in the UK and they keep talking about the worsening situation in this country and how the crime rates are rising everywhere. It’s very easy for you to miss this innocent “everywhere” word, but your brain already absorbed it and now, because you left in undetected, it will create a clashing belief which says “It’s safe in Harpenden” and at the same time “It’s not safe in Harpenden”.

Can you imagine what this clashing belief would do to you? Well firstly, it would keep you stuck. Secondly, it would create more chaos in your mind. Thirdly, you would start doubting yourself and then you would start getting agitated/anxious for no apparent reason.

The bad news is, it’s likely that you have 100s of such clashing beliefs, unless you seriously worked on yourself. And I’m not telling you all this to discourage you, but to make you aware of how much more you need to improve yourself for the road to become clearer and for your progress – quicker.

Awareness is really the key, so from now on I hope that you will not allow any external influences – neither your friends, TV, newspapers or authority figures – install such clashing beliefs in your mind. Because once they are there, it’s really hard to detect and remove them.

So when you don’t have any clashing beliefs about your goal, your goal is clear and it’s what you truly want, you will be more than motivated to achieve it, even though you may be quite comfortable in your present circumstances.

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