How to Know if Someone Speaks from the Mind or Heart
In the Western world talking from the mind is accepted as a perfectly normal thing to do. Talking from your mind is encouraged and talking from the heart is seen as childish.
From the early age at school children are taught how to count, obey the rules and believe only in things that they can see or touch. Their creativity is suppressed and listening to their intuition is discouraged. They soon come to the conclusion that those who talk from the heart are weak and not as intelligent.
A big difference
It’s very easy to tell if a person talks from the mind or heart. We are very used to hearing the words that come from the mind and they seem usual to us – we don’t react to them much, unless the words are insulting or well-said.
But if we hear a person talking from the heart we get emotional and this emotion cannot be controlled. Sure, we can mask the way we behave, but the emotion remains in us. So for example when someone says to you “I love you” and that appeals to your mind, these words came from the person’s mind. You feel satisfaction but there are no deep feelings about it. And if instead you feel highly emotional, these words reached you from someone’s heart.
When a person talks from the heart others listen. When a person talks from the mind it’s boring unless the information is useful for your brain – then you absorb it but you don’t have any emotions arising in you.
It’s easy to tell if a public speaker speaks for money only (from the mind) or because she really enjoys it (from the heart). Those who speak for money only can become well known if they provide very interesting/important information. But they will never get the same response and appreciation than those speakers who speak from the heart. Because when you speak from your heart you don’t need anything impressive to say and you still leave a very deep impact on people.
What talking from your mind does to you
No person can be truly happy who only takes action as a result of his egoic mind. Yes, such people may appear smarter and win more of whatever they want in life, but that doesn’t bring them more happiness. They simply want more things because that’s the nature of the mind and the never ending chase of insanity continues.
Those who always assess everything with brain and ignore the response of the heart always lose out in some way. They then select empty choices and they feel empty. Like if a person would have a goal to become a top manager at their office and she would impress the right people because she planned to do so; She might get the position she so desperately aimed for but what happens after her goal is attained? She feels empty again and goes for a higher goal hoping that it will somehow fill this emptiness she feels inside.
Nope. That won’t do. She needs to get out of the habit of making decisions only with mind and start making decisions with her heart because here’s what will happen then…
What talking from your heart does to you
When you always respond with your heart (and please don’t mix this with the habitual reacting because these are two different things) then you are being led by your soul to your ultimate fulfillment. You then respond in a way that leads you to the lessons that you have to learn in this lifetime until you are totally at peace and happy with yourself.
Your heart doesn’t contain any habits – only your mind. So let’s say someone insults you and you feel the urge to insult that person back. If you pay attention to where this urge comes from you will always feel it’s from your mind.
But if you care to pay attention to the more genuine feeling you have about the situation you will respond in a totally different way. Maybe you will feel hurt and say that to the person. Or maybe you will feel compassion for that person as by trying to cause harm to you he also causes harm to himself.
Maybe you will feel that you love/care for that person no matter what they do to you. If you express such feelings of your heart to the person that hurt you, he will react in a different way. And this will cause your future actions to be very different from the actions that would follow your mind-reaction. Thus you will change your future for the better.
Your heart never lies. So those who speak truth speak with their hearts. You should always choose to say the truth now matter how inconvenient it is. Because this habit of listening to your heart and telling the truth as a result will quickly make you feel peaceful and happy inside.
Those people who talk with their hearts are at ease with themselves, know what their purpose is and work in an area they love. Those people usually have small businesses or are freelancers, but not all, of course. They have a very relaxing energy around them and it’s a joy to be with them. They truly enjoy their lives and nothing annoys them or makes them angry.
(Let me just quickly say that those people who always are highly emotional are NOT being lead by their hearts – they have imbalance in emotions. This can be healed by regular meditation.)
Those who talk with their minds can be in top positions within their companies but they are miserable. Also those who are crazy about making money or competing make decisions from their minds and therefore feel unfulfilled inside. They take actions which they hope will fulfill them but that never happens.
I almost fell into this mind trap once my business started developing. I got to know some successful businesspeople who taught me how to properly build a business, how to hire people and make more money. However I felt emptiness in them. They always worked for more money, more customers, more of everything. But they never felt fulfilled no matter how much money/customers they acquired.
I also felt that my business is becoming more generic and less personal. I didn’t want to lose touch with my readers/fans because I enjoyed communicating with them. I didn’t want to hire/sack/manage people.
I eventually realized that my business is great as it is – there’s nothing more that I need, no matter how many people approach me to tell me that I could get a better newsletter opt-in rate or more income from the business activities I do. Such suggestions are based on the assumption that I’m not happy with what I have now. Most people assume this because they are not happy with what they have. But fortunately I didn’t sign up for this never ending race to nowhere because I listened to my heart.
So now when I talk with business owners or professionals and they advise me about how to develop my business and I respond that I’m happy with my business as it is, I get many surprised looks. Some think I’m crazy, some think I don’t understand what they’re saying, some think I will “grow up” someday and do what they tell me to. That’s ok, they can think whatever they wish but I know in my heart that I’m happy with my business the way it is.
Conclusion
You know if a person speaks from the mind or heart by the way you feel about what they say. If you get emotional or you have some deep feeling inside, it means the person talks from the heart. If their words appeal only to your mind or they don’t appeal to your mind (but doesn’t do anything to your heart), then the person speaks from the mind.
No matter how many people choose to think with their minds that’s not the best option. A better option is to think with your heart because then you get on the path to your ultimate fulfillment. Only by thinking with your heart you can learn the lessons that you should learn in this lifetime and have the experiences that benefit you.
Talking with your mind is accepted as a good thing to do. You can show off your intelligence and sharpness of your mind. But beyond this entertainment you don’t benefit anyone, not even yourself. You simply play the ego game which leads to emptiness.
So the next time you are in some conversation, try to tell the truth. You tell the truth when you speak from your heart because the heart never lies, only the mind does. See how people respond to you then – I’m sure you will be surprised.
When you are being true to yourself others will be more open to you too. Sure, some people may use you but you will never get burnt if you keep listening to your heart. Just respond in a way you deeply feel about the issue and you will be on the path to a never-ending peace and happiness.
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My name is Simona Rich and I help people improve themselves through the articles and products of this website. Although I have found my life's purpose and now I spend my time traveling throughout India and sharing my knowledge, my life used to be completely different.